Friday, December 30, 2005
San Diego was lovely and warm and sunny. Joe got a new telescope mount which we took to a local oceanside park for viewing. Andrew couldn't quite master the one eyed look. Andrew is so excited with life, with running and chattering and trying to be part of his world int he most grown up way possible--and sometimes it is frustrating. Most of the time he repeats the words until he gets them right, recognizes the concepts we are talking about, and very often persists in his own view of what is right in the universe. ("lots of cars" to take to the park when we say "choose two")
Drew no longer needs his doggies close to hand, and he is willing to sleep a little in the afternoon, even when there are extra grandparents in the house. His smile is wise and his eyes sparkle and he does know that many people love him.
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Tuesday, December 06, 2005
Hess Times 2005
An annual report of sightings, glimpses, occasions of joy and pleasure, post cards of the fast-paced and global lives of our family.
The Best of Times
Mary and David and Drew are settled, for now, in San Diego. Mary finished her first year of law school, concentrating intensely on intellectual property law, and is now half way through her second. We visited San Diego after a June trip to Catalina…you know, “26 miles across the sea…” Then in August we all went to cousin Taylor’s wedding in Georgia, and on to the beach at Sea Island. Drew just grew and grew and ran everywhere, chattering about his world of zoo trips and swimming lessons. He turned two at the end of August, just as Dave returned from several weeks working at Kyocera’s facility in China.
Like a Rolling Stone
Last Christmas Jon was in the Czech Republic, and then spent the month of January on the southern coast of Portugal. For much of the spring and summer he lived at home, working long hours for Borders bookstore and for a startup eldercare company. It was a pleasure to catch a glimpse, to occasionally cook a meal for him, to hit the golf ball with him, or to watch his softball team. Currently he is living in San Francisco and working at a Borders bookstore in Union Square, and snowboarding whenever possible.
Retired Again
Virginia worked herself out of a job. She so enjoyed the people at Stanford that she just did more and more…until the parttime job seemed full-time, and even when she was on vacation she thought and worried and fretted about it. So she retired again, and as Joe says, “she’ll keep doing it until she gets it right”. In the meantime, she had been elected to the board of the Rice University Alumni Association (she didn’t know she was running but was pleased to accept), which entails three trips a year to Houston. So far the work has been to give advice, which she loves to do. And with more free time, she spent two weeks helping with Drew while his Dad was in China, went on a Panama Canal cruise with her Mom (the highlight was the Costa Rican rain forest.), enjoyed her nephew’s wedding parties in Dallas and Georgia, and traveled to Baltimore for a girls’ week with old friends. And she made time for volunteer work with the American Cancer Society.
Not Retiring at All
Joe seemed to spend most of his time in Japan and Canada this year, with customers in Tokyo, Montreal, and Calgary. He managed to see Drew almost once a month, and told him bedtime stories over the speakerphone on occasion. Joe and Virginia spent Thanksgiving in Texas for the first time in 31 years, in Dallas and at a ranch very close to the town where his father was born 100 years ago. Brazil is his next destination, probably in January. He still builds telescopes in the garage, and would love to find a very dark sky in a quiet place for retirement. But not yet.
So the family is scattered, but closer this year than last Christmas. We are taking pleasure in the here and now, thankful for health and loved ones, and truthfully pay less attention to the externalities that used to be so frustrating. We will all be in San Diego for Christmas Day, competing to play with Drew and his toys. We wish you a very happy holiday season, peace, and good cheer.
The Best of Times
Mary and David and Drew are settled, for now, in San Diego. Mary finished her first year of law school, concentrating intensely on intellectual property law, and is now half way through her second. We visited San Diego after a June trip to Catalina…you know, “26 miles across the sea…” Then in August we all went to cousin Taylor’s wedding in Georgia, and on to the beach at Sea Island. Drew just grew and grew and ran everywhere, chattering about his world of zoo trips and swimming lessons. He turned two at the end of August, just as Dave returned from several weeks working at Kyocera’s facility in China.
Like a Rolling Stone
Last Christmas Jon was in the Czech Republic, and then spent the month of January on the southern coast of Portugal. For much of the spring and summer he lived at home, working long hours for Borders bookstore and for a startup eldercare company. It was a pleasure to catch a glimpse, to occasionally cook a meal for him, to hit the golf ball with him, or to watch his softball team. Currently he is living in San Francisco and working at a Borders bookstore in Union Square, and snowboarding whenever possible.
Retired Again
Virginia worked herself out of a job. She so enjoyed the people at Stanford that she just did more and more…until the parttime job seemed full-time, and even when she was on vacation she thought and worried and fretted about it. So she retired again, and as Joe says, “she’ll keep doing it until she gets it right”. In the meantime, she had been elected to the board of the Rice University Alumni Association (she didn’t know she was running but was pleased to accept), which entails three trips a year to Houston. So far the work has been to give advice, which she loves to do. And with more free time, she spent two weeks helping with Drew while his Dad was in China, went on a Panama Canal cruise with her Mom (the highlight was the Costa Rican rain forest.), enjoyed her nephew’s wedding parties in Dallas and Georgia, and traveled to Baltimore for a girls’ week with old friends. And she made time for volunteer work with the American Cancer Society.
Not Retiring at All
Joe seemed to spend most of his time in Japan and Canada this year, with customers in Tokyo, Montreal, and Calgary. He managed to see Drew almost once a month, and told him bedtime stories over the speakerphone on occasion. Joe and Virginia spent Thanksgiving in Texas for the first time in 31 years, in Dallas and at a ranch very close to the town where his father was born 100 years ago. Brazil is his next destination, probably in January. He still builds telescopes in the garage, and would love to find a very dark sky in a quiet place for retirement. But not yet.
So the family is scattered, but closer this year than last Christmas. We are taking pleasure in the here and now, thankful for health and loved ones, and truthfully pay less attention to the externalities that used to be so frustrating. We will all be in San Diego for Christmas Day, competing to play with Drew and his toys. We wish you a very happy holiday season, peace, and good cheer.
Thursday, October 27, 2005
Not Just No
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
The day was autumnal, chill, foggy, but the sun broke through just about tailgate time. Each tail gate gets better. This one featured Dan's pulled beef tacos and Joe's tangerine margaritas.My spinach chicken enchiladas. Fruit and cheese and a gigantic salad. The football was the best in several years. Passes were caught, kicks scored, and the other team was baaad. Afterwards we had a crab fest. Mitch and Judy cooked the crab. It doesn't get any better than this day. Savor the moment.
Monday, October 24, 2005
Friday, October 07, 2005
Perfect Days
Each day is a gift of discovery, of time stretching out before me, to be spent, hoarded, given. My time is my own. I am so enjoying the nots: not doing hair and makeup, not commuting, not opening an office, not plunging into the world of others, not spending my energy in a world not my own, not having a life, not commuting in darkness among joggers and bikers half seen, not feeling like doing anything else but repeating the same patterns.
Wednesday was a particularly wonderful day. Jon and I drove over to the coast mid morning, with Homerdog. We stopped at Cowell Ranch state beach park and hiked half a mile down to the beach and the ocean. We saw only three other people, hundreds of artichoke plants, and a fence gate shaped like a spouting whale, in the middle of the field.
Our next stop was Arata's pumpkin farm, set in a coastside valley to the east of Highway 1, four miles south of Half Moon Bay. Farmer Arata builds a corn maze every year out of corn bales, stacked 5 high, way over my head. He doesn't draw it out before construction, but it is intricate, clever and very difficult to escape. It took Jon and me half an hour, and we had to collaborate, that is, I stood at interesections while he checked out each offshoot, so as not to get lost. Before we teamed up I went in by myself, only to find it a creepy experience: just corn and blue sky and no sounds, no other people.
We took another half hour to pick our four pumpkins, to be added to the front yard display we already had. Red pumpkins, green, gray, and pumpkin orange. Afterwards we stopped at Two Fools Cafe in Half Moon Bay for lunch, on their patio, in the shade. A most excellent day.
Wednesday, September 14, 2005
Book List from my book group
ST. FRANCIS ALUMNI MOTHER'S BOOK CLUB
BEL CANTO
ANN PATCHETT
ENEMY WOMEN
PAULETTE JILES
THE RED TENT
ANITA DIAMONT
THE PIANO TUNER
DANIEL MASON
THE THINGS THEY CARRIED
TIM O'BRIEN
THEIR EYES WERE WATCHING GOD
ZORA NEALE THURSTON
EMBERS
SANDOR MARAI
DESERT QUEEN
JANET WALLACH
THE DA VINCI CODE
DAN BROWN
BALZAC AND THE LITTLE CHINESE SEAMSTRESS
DAI SIJI
THE BONESETTER'S DAUGHTER
AMY TAN
THE SECRET LIFE OF BEES
SUE MONK KIDD
BREAKING THROUGH
FRANCISCO JIMENEZ
THE DIVE OFF CLAUSEN'S BRIDGE
ANN PACKER
MIDDLESEX
JEFFREY EUGENIDES
THE BEND IN THE RIVER
V.S. NAIPAUL
THIS MUCH I KNOW IS TRUE
WALLY LAMB
WHAT I LOVED
SIRI HUSTVEDT
BRICK LANE
MONICA ALI
ANGLE OF REPOSE
WALLACE STEGNER
BLESSINGS
ANNA QUINDLEN
OLD SCHOOL
TOBIAS WOLFF
KITE RUNNER
KHALED HOSSEINI
TRAVELING MERCIES
ANNE LAMOTT
THE MASTER BUTCHER'S SINGING CLUB
LOUISE ERDRICH
HANNAH COULTER
WENDELL BERRY
THE OTHER BOLEYN GIRL
PHILIPPA GREGORY
THE KNOWN WORLD
EDWARD P. JONES
THE SHADOW IN THE WIND
CARLOS RUIZ ZAFON
BEL CANTO
ANN PATCHETT
ENEMY WOMEN
PAULETTE JILES
THE RED TENT
ANITA DIAMONT
THE PIANO TUNER
DANIEL MASON
THE THINGS THEY CARRIED
TIM O'BRIEN
THEIR EYES WERE WATCHING GOD
ZORA NEALE THURSTON
EMBERS
SANDOR MARAI
DESERT QUEEN
JANET WALLACH
THE DA VINCI CODE
DAN BROWN
BALZAC AND THE LITTLE CHINESE SEAMSTRESS
DAI SIJI
THE BONESETTER'S DAUGHTER
AMY TAN
THE SECRET LIFE OF BEES
SUE MONK KIDD
BREAKING THROUGH
FRANCISCO JIMENEZ
THE DIVE OFF CLAUSEN'S BRIDGE
ANN PACKER
MIDDLESEX
JEFFREY EUGENIDES
THE BEND IN THE RIVER
V.S. NAIPAUL
THIS MUCH I KNOW IS TRUE
WALLY LAMB
WHAT I LOVED
SIRI HUSTVEDT
BRICK LANE
MONICA ALI
ANGLE OF REPOSE
WALLACE STEGNER
BLESSINGS
ANNA QUINDLEN
OLD SCHOOL
TOBIAS WOLFF
KITE RUNNER
KHALED HOSSEINI
TRAVELING MERCIES
ANNE LAMOTT
THE MASTER BUTCHER'S SINGING CLUB
LOUISE ERDRICH
HANNAH COULTER
WENDELL BERRY
THE OTHER BOLEYN GIRL
PHILIPPA GREGORY
THE KNOWN WORLD
EDWARD P. JONES
THE SHADOW IN THE WIND
CARLOS RUIZ ZAFON
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Nana V takes on 2 year old
I told some folks I had been to the spa: lots of exercise, especially early in the morning, and not much food. Others I told that I had been bonding with my grandson. Still other I told I had been run ragged and defeated by a two year old. All were true.
I hope that Andrew is not your typical two year old. Surely I am not that old, that out of shape, that an ordinary toddler can reduce me to gibberish. He never stops running, walking, climbing. He doesn’t sit down very often. Not in stroller, not in a high chair, not in a wagon, not in a grocery cart, no never. (See, I am beginning to sound like Green Eggs and Ham, one of our favorite books of the week.)
Every morning the challenge was to run off the excess energy. Some days we walked to Gymboree, a baby gym designed to work out the adults as well as the children. Andrew is not much into group activities, so when Miss Janice asked the children to get into a circle, Andrew was likely to head for the far corner and a climbing tower. The music in our neighborhood Gymboree was heavy on the Beach Boys, music of my generation. Go figure. After Gymboree we would get in the car for an excursion, to take advantage of Andrew’s best hours. Shopping for shoes was good. Off to the mall and the StrideRite store. To get to the store we had to pass a series of fountains with bronze dolphins leaping and swimming. Andrew wanted to join them, so after some 30 minutes of coaxing him along the string of pools, we picked him up and briskly walked the last 50 yards to the store. He did not like having his foot measured (“Cold” he said.) Alas, they no longer have the X ray machines of my childhood, the ones where you could see the bones of your foot inside the shoes. We quickly settled on the only pair of dark Velcro athletic shoes in his size, and forked over the $50.
More shopping for cute fall sweats and polo shirts was not tolerated well by Andrew so he left with the other Nana, after we had determined that he was not quite ready for a 3T jacket. I joined them at a food court where we ordered a Happy Meal for him and Rubios mahi mahi tacos for us. While the food was excellent, the real focus of the meal was on yet another fountain, just adjacent to our table. He was mainly content to run his plastic car (from the Happy Meal) around the edges of the fountain, but of course we didn’t want him to wander more than 5 feet away from us. So it was up and down as we chased and ate in turn. Another little girl was throwing pennies in the fountain with her mom, so I had the bright idea of teaching this old tradition to Andrew. Wrong. He took the coin but did not master the concept of throwing it away. Actually this may be a good personality trait, one we should encourage. But it meant that we had to stand over him at all times, fearful that he would eat the coin. The plastic car was itself an object of curiosity. The back half was hinged and would flip up, including the wheels. “Broken” Andrew said. “Open Doors” he asked. They don’t open, we replied. But then we had never seen such a strange toy. Later my daughter took one look at the toy and pulled and swiveled and announced “Transformer”. Oh yes, the toys of our children’s childhood. Silly Nanas, we should have known.
The day wasn’t over yet. A short nap later, Andrew was ready to rumble in the kiddie pool in the back yard. Dressed for swimming in his swimming diaper, trunks, shirt, and hat, he took the dribbling hose and watered all of his trucks and outside toys. We hoped that the excess would green up the yard, which was dying from a dysfunctional sprinkler system. Even such an innocent activity required close monitoring, as Andrew liked to water the patio (more puddles) and tended to slip and slide in the kiddie pool. Following an hour or so of water play, he needed…..a bath.
The two Nanas were a little tired by this time, so we decided on a clandestine operation. Dinner for Andrew in front of his favority Thomas the Train DVD. My daughter sees television as an Evil Influence and is very strict in allocating his time in front of the screen, so this was definitely off the clock. We wheeled his high chair in front of the screen, fully prepared to wheel it back if we heard her 4runner arrive. Andrew ate heartily and promised not to tell Mommy he had been watching Thomas. The other Nana was especially pleased that we did not get caught. I reminded her that in our childhood we had TV trays just to facilitate this activity.
I hope that Andrew is not your typical two year old. Surely I am not that old, that out of shape, that an ordinary toddler can reduce me to gibberish. He never stops running, walking, climbing. He doesn’t sit down very often. Not in stroller, not in a high chair, not in a wagon, not in a grocery cart, no never. (See, I am beginning to sound like Green Eggs and Ham, one of our favorite books of the week.)
Every morning the challenge was to run off the excess energy. Some days we walked to Gymboree, a baby gym designed to work out the adults as well as the children. Andrew is not much into group activities, so when Miss Janice asked the children to get into a circle, Andrew was likely to head for the far corner and a climbing tower. The music in our neighborhood Gymboree was heavy on the Beach Boys, music of my generation. Go figure. After Gymboree we would get in the car for an excursion, to take advantage of Andrew’s best hours. Shopping for shoes was good. Off to the mall and the StrideRite store. To get to the store we had to pass a series of fountains with bronze dolphins leaping and swimming. Andrew wanted to join them, so after some 30 minutes of coaxing him along the string of pools, we picked him up and briskly walked the last 50 yards to the store. He did not like having his foot measured (“Cold” he said.) Alas, they no longer have the X ray machines of my childhood, the ones where you could see the bones of your foot inside the shoes. We quickly settled on the only pair of dark Velcro athletic shoes in his size, and forked over the $50.
More shopping for cute fall sweats and polo shirts was not tolerated well by Andrew so he left with the other Nana, after we had determined that he was not quite ready for a 3T jacket. I joined them at a food court where we ordered a Happy Meal for him and Rubios mahi mahi tacos for us. While the food was excellent, the real focus of the meal was on yet another fountain, just adjacent to our table. He was mainly content to run his plastic car (from the Happy Meal) around the edges of the fountain, but of course we didn’t want him to wander more than 5 feet away from us. So it was up and down as we chased and ate in turn. Another little girl was throwing pennies in the fountain with her mom, so I had the bright idea of teaching this old tradition to Andrew. Wrong. He took the coin but did not master the concept of throwing it away. Actually this may be a good personality trait, one we should encourage. But it meant that we had to stand over him at all times, fearful that he would eat the coin. The plastic car was itself an object of curiosity. The back half was hinged and would flip up, including the wheels. “Broken” Andrew said. “Open Doors” he asked. They don’t open, we replied. But then we had never seen such a strange toy. Later my daughter took one look at the toy and pulled and swiveled and announced “Transformer”. Oh yes, the toys of our children’s childhood. Silly Nanas, we should have known.
The day wasn’t over yet. A short nap later, Andrew was ready to rumble in the kiddie pool in the back yard. Dressed for swimming in his swimming diaper, trunks, shirt, and hat, he took the dribbling hose and watered all of his trucks and outside toys. We hoped that the excess would green up the yard, which was dying from a dysfunctional sprinkler system. Even such an innocent activity required close monitoring, as Andrew liked to water the patio (more puddles) and tended to slip and slide in the kiddie pool. Following an hour or so of water play, he needed…..a bath.
The two Nanas were a little tired by this time, so we decided on a clandestine operation. Dinner for Andrew in front of his favority Thomas the Train DVD. My daughter sees television as an Evil Influence and is very strict in allocating his time in front of the screen, so this was definitely off the clock. We wheeled his high chair in front of the screen, fully prepared to wheel it back if we heard her 4runner arrive. Andrew ate heartily and promised not to tell Mommy he had been watching Thomas. The other Nana was especially pleased that we did not get caught. I reminded her that in our childhood we had TV trays just to facilitate this activity.
Saturday, August 20, 2005
Weddings, Roadblocks, and Snapping Turtles
Highlights of Taylor Hunt and Elizabeth Floyd’s Wedding August 6, 2005, by the groom’s Aunt
to see pictures that go with this narrative, go to www.hessfamily.shutterfly.com
Thursday
We landed in Tallahassee(TLH) a town I can’t spell, and thus for a long time could make no travel arrangements to go to, as it did not exist in my spelling in any of the travel search engines, not to mention the airlines. Picked up rental car and drove one hour north, careful to avoid speed traps (per Judge Floyd) in Havana. We saw many gun shops and interesting bumper stickers and the red neck jokes were flying in the front seat (I was in the back) until we came upon a road block. As we slowed down to meet the troopers, Joe speculated that they were looking for a fugitive….and he was right. An armed bank robber, over six feet tall…and black….The Trooper told us that if we saw him running along the road NOT to stop, but to use our cell phones and call 911. So we had our first Georgia experience and we weren’t even there yet.
The Jamison Inn, where the wedding party commanded all 60 rooms, was charming, two two story buildings with a parking lot in between. A perfect party site, as you saw others coming and going (and late at night some of the guests got a standing ovation upon retiring for the evening.) Fortunately my sister had the youngers all in one building with the hospitality suite, which was staffed by Jon and his cousin Casey. (She thought they went through 38 cases of beer….I think she was short by about 12).
Our first activity was a caravan out into the countryside into the sunset to a log cabin restaurant called The Pond. Spanish moss, swamps, dirt roads---we loved the atomosphere, even though the lead car got lost. Some of the best fish ever, enhanced by the coolers of wine we imported from the Hospitality Suite (HS).
Friday morning we were up bright and early heading back to that city I can’t spell to meet Mary and Dave and Andrew at the airport, as they came in on a red eye. We were at a stop light close to the airport when I spied a pickup with a big garbage can shaking and rattling in the back—suddenly I spied a snake head as big as my forearm emerge from the can and realized that it came with flippers and a shell—the world’s largest snapping turtle almost landed on the hood of the car. My second Georgia experience, in Florida.
Racing back to the Jamison, we missed the bridesmaid luncheon party who had departed without us. Jon, being hospitable, handed us a cooler with cold water and a giant Bloody Mary as we turned the car around and drove back to TLH. Ever fearful of Havana, we stopped and poured out the drink before we could be speed trapped with an open container.
The luncheon was divine. Remember this menu for future ladies events: margaritas to start. Shrimp and rice salad, herbed green beans, and local tomatoes with homemade mayonnaise. Frothy meringue with Georgia peaches and whipped cream. My third Georgia experience, in Florida.
Have I mentioned that it rained—a lot. This is significant because Andrew spent much of the afternoon at the Jamison wading in the puddles and enjoying the rain, as he never sees rain in San Diego. The wedding party had to go to the rehearsal, but the grandmothers pulled rank and decided they knew how to walk down the aisle. So Mom rode with us to the rehearsal dinner, at the local country club.
The dinner, for 180 plus people, was to die for. The tables were decorated with giant bronze urns containing ivy and blue and white flowers, while the tables were covered with taffeta in chocolate and ice blue. Tables were named for Texas or Georgia towns—ours was Denison. Napkins were wrapped in bandanas commemorating the event, and western picture frames contained place cards. The roast after the dinner was only a little bit over the line, and the part about the Highland Park Flasher was declared Not True.
Taylor gave Elizabeth beautiful earrings as her wedding present. (She gave him a watch, on the day of the wedding.) The room was extended with a tent, actually the town of Bainbridge was extended throughout—the servers included the high school drill team. We understood that the bride’s mother had actually had city crews out trimming the grass by the side of the road. All that effort paid off, as Bainbridge sparkled, and the country club Will Never Be the Same—it exceeded expectations by far. We would go so far as to call it the Perfect Wedding. What made it most special, however, was the friendliness of Elizabeth’s family, their welcome to all of us, and her Mom’s serenity throughout. They seemed to enjoy the events as much as we all did. Of course, Carol can no longer be simply a champion tennis player. She is now the Wedding Planner of Bainbridge. All of those cute drill team members who served at the rehearsal dinner and the reception will be calling on her in years to come to help out. In fact, I have heard rumors that she will be called upon to consult in Dallas, business she will not turn down, as she can visit E and T. But I don’t think she can get the grass trimmed in Dallas!
The HS after the Rehearsal Dinner resembled, I was told, a UGA frat party. The groomsmen and ushers were staying at a motel next door, and most of them arrived Friday evening. Word spread about the quantity of beer, and the weather cleared so that the parking lot became the Place to Be. Note that the HS had been replenished overnight because the Thursday night pre-party had cleaned it out. This after-party lasted until about 5 am. My son began to notice that there was a serious shortage of young ladies at this event, since most of the bridesmaids were engaged. Fortunately, us olders were staying in the building across the way, and we slept well under the air conditioning.
Saturday morning was the Sip and See. Also known as a brunch at the bridal family’s neighbors, followed by a viewing of her wedding gifts. Southern hospitality was on full display, and the food was really wonderful. Ham n Biscuits. Eggs. Mmmmm….The houses were in a piney woods, very serene and elegant. I was ready to move to Georgia. However, as we were leaving word was passed that the heavens were about to open up, and they did. It cooled things off. At some point Doug left to replenish the HS, and we were all on hand at the Suite to help unload the SUV when he arrived some hours later.
I should mention here that most of the provisions came from the WalMart across the road from the Jamison, but that Hard Liquor had to be procured from a Shady part of town. Joe and Jon both love Wal Mart, and have fond memories of the ones in Lexington, VA, Maui, and the Big Island. Joe forgot his dress shirt and bought a tacky but useful one in this Walmart. He alleged he was sorry he had packed, as he could have outfitted himself entirely. This after I made them both buy new suits for the event. By the way, they noticed that no one else had on a striped suit. I tried to convince them that California styles are avant garde but I am not sure they bought it. Jon did state, rather emphatically, that he will never have to shop for a wedding again. He’s done.
While Margaret and my Mom had their hair done that afternoon, we repaired to the local Dairy Queen. Joe was disappointed to find that they don’t serve steak fingers any more. I wisely abstained and read the local paper, which reported that the fugitive had been captured at 5 am the previous day, just as the Judge had predicted: a night in the swamps of southwest Georgia made jail seem good.
I knew someone knew something I didn’t know when one of the Dallas friends asked when they would open the church to allow us in. Have I mentioned that I felt so at home at this wedding because I knew so many of Margaret’s friends, either from Round Top excursions, or from Sea Island summers? If this friend had not every so casually clued me in I would have arrived 15 minutes before the wedding and found myself without a seat. Except that Margaret did tell us to say to the usher to seat us “between the ribbons”. This message did not get passed to all of the family, so at the church I reassured Doug’s siblings that they too belonged “between the ribbons”. I began to get worried that we wouldn’t leave room for the bridal party but it all worked out.
Taylor was the happiest bridegroom any of us had ever seen. He must have figured out what a GREAT DEAL he was getting in his lovely bride, or so his brother Austin said. I hear Austin would like an Elizabeth clone. The wedding was beautiful, the singing by Megan and Davin particularly so, and only one person fainted, and she later recovered. Let it be reported that the groom’s mother did Not cry. I think she was just relieved to see Taylor happy. One down, four to go.
On to the reception, at the same Bainbridge Country Club, transformed into a white rose garden. How could they top the dinner from the previous evening? They did. Passed fried oysters and crab claws. Multiple food stations with beef tenderloin, shrimp, pasta—some of the food I never even got to sample. An entire station of pralines being made in copper pans on the spot. A band from Atlanta that combined beach music and Sammy Davis, Jr. Great dancing. A groom’s cake in the shape of Texas and Georgia. Taylor’s Hunt grandparents “cutting a rug”. Even the flower girl danced. And finally two hands waving out the limo window as they left for Atlanta and a Maui honeymoon.
Jon left a little early with Mary and Dave, who had to relieve the sitter. (Andrew fell in love with his babysitters and his cousin Megan—the standard has been set) Jon had to ice down another half dozen cases of beer. Note to self: Georgia and Texas folks drink Bud Light and Miller Light. Beer in bottles did not go well—one young lady asked if it had alcohol in it. It must have been a fine evening. Jon kept hiding the chips so they wouldn’t get ground into the carpet. I kept pulling them out and serving them in the parking lot to the youngers, to add some carbs to the alcohol. Multicolored goldfish were especially popular.
We retired to our air conditioned room around 2 am because we knew the party was not over. The grandmothers hosted a brunch the next morning at a lovely lakeview home. Again the food was very southern—we loved the various homemade preserves and breads. Andrew attended in his seersucker Eaton suit. He immediately twisted off a brass button, but greatly enjoyed the strawberries. He was a Prince. All in attendance agreed that it had been an Exceptionally Wonderful Wedding.
We departed to help Doug and Jon dismantle the HS. Jon admitted it was masterful of moi to pass the carbs out in the parking lot, as the mess was not as great as other mornings. Austin managed to get three coolers loaded with booze into his SUV, Doug had all nineteen tuxes to return, Margaret had Mom, Dave and Mary had Andrew and a DVD player for the car, and we had Jon as a driver, until he confessed he had been up until 5 am. And the caravan began to Sea Island, which is a story for another time.
to see pictures that go with this narrative, go to www.hessfamily.shutterfly.com
Thursday
We landed in Tallahassee(TLH) a town I can’t spell, and thus for a long time could make no travel arrangements to go to, as it did not exist in my spelling in any of the travel search engines, not to mention the airlines. Picked up rental car and drove one hour north, careful to avoid speed traps (per Judge Floyd) in Havana. We saw many gun shops and interesting bumper stickers and the red neck jokes were flying in the front seat (I was in the back) until we came upon a road block. As we slowed down to meet the troopers, Joe speculated that they were looking for a fugitive….and he was right. An armed bank robber, over six feet tall…and black….The Trooper told us that if we saw him running along the road NOT to stop, but to use our cell phones and call 911. So we had our first Georgia experience and we weren’t even there yet.
The Jamison Inn, where the wedding party commanded all 60 rooms, was charming, two two story buildings with a parking lot in between. A perfect party site, as you saw others coming and going (and late at night some of the guests got a standing ovation upon retiring for the evening.) Fortunately my sister had the youngers all in one building with the hospitality suite, which was staffed by Jon and his cousin Casey. (She thought they went through 38 cases of beer….I think she was short by about 12).
Our first activity was a caravan out into the countryside into the sunset to a log cabin restaurant called The Pond. Spanish moss, swamps, dirt roads---we loved the atomosphere, even though the lead car got lost. Some of the best fish ever, enhanced by the coolers of wine we imported from the Hospitality Suite (HS).
Friday morning we were up bright and early heading back to that city I can’t spell to meet Mary and Dave and Andrew at the airport, as they came in on a red eye. We were at a stop light close to the airport when I spied a pickup with a big garbage can shaking and rattling in the back—suddenly I spied a snake head as big as my forearm emerge from the can and realized that it came with flippers and a shell—the world’s largest snapping turtle almost landed on the hood of the car. My second Georgia experience, in Florida.
Racing back to the Jamison, we missed the bridesmaid luncheon party who had departed without us. Jon, being hospitable, handed us a cooler with cold water and a giant Bloody Mary as we turned the car around and drove back to TLH. Ever fearful of Havana, we stopped and poured out the drink before we could be speed trapped with an open container.
The luncheon was divine. Remember this menu for future ladies events: margaritas to start. Shrimp and rice salad, herbed green beans, and local tomatoes with homemade mayonnaise. Frothy meringue with Georgia peaches and whipped cream. My third Georgia experience, in Florida.
Have I mentioned that it rained—a lot. This is significant because Andrew spent much of the afternoon at the Jamison wading in the puddles and enjoying the rain, as he never sees rain in San Diego. The wedding party had to go to the rehearsal, but the grandmothers pulled rank and decided they knew how to walk down the aisle. So Mom rode with us to the rehearsal dinner, at the local country club.
The dinner, for 180 plus people, was to die for. The tables were decorated with giant bronze urns containing ivy and blue and white flowers, while the tables were covered with taffeta in chocolate and ice blue. Tables were named for Texas or Georgia towns—ours was Denison. Napkins were wrapped in bandanas commemorating the event, and western picture frames contained place cards. The roast after the dinner was only a little bit over the line, and the part about the Highland Park Flasher was declared Not True.
Taylor gave Elizabeth beautiful earrings as her wedding present. (She gave him a watch, on the day of the wedding.) The room was extended with a tent, actually the town of Bainbridge was extended throughout—the servers included the high school drill team. We understood that the bride’s mother had actually had city crews out trimming the grass by the side of the road. All that effort paid off, as Bainbridge sparkled, and the country club Will Never Be the Same—it exceeded expectations by far. We would go so far as to call it the Perfect Wedding. What made it most special, however, was the friendliness of Elizabeth’s family, their welcome to all of us, and her Mom’s serenity throughout. They seemed to enjoy the events as much as we all did. Of course, Carol can no longer be simply a champion tennis player. She is now the Wedding Planner of Bainbridge. All of those cute drill team members who served at the rehearsal dinner and the reception will be calling on her in years to come to help out. In fact, I have heard rumors that she will be called upon to consult in Dallas, business she will not turn down, as she can visit E and T. But I don’t think she can get the grass trimmed in Dallas!
The HS after the Rehearsal Dinner resembled, I was told, a UGA frat party. The groomsmen and ushers were staying at a motel next door, and most of them arrived Friday evening. Word spread about the quantity of beer, and the weather cleared so that the parking lot became the Place to Be. Note that the HS had been replenished overnight because the Thursday night pre-party had cleaned it out. This after-party lasted until about 5 am. My son began to notice that there was a serious shortage of young ladies at this event, since most of the bridesmaids were engaged. Fortunately, us olders were staying in the building across the way, and we slept well under the air conditioning.
Saturday morning was the Sip and See. Also known as a brunch at the bridal family’s neighbors, followed by a viewing of her wedding gifts. Southern hospitality was on full display, and the food was really wonderful. Ham n Biscuits. Eggs. Mmmmm….The houses were in a piney woods, very serene and elegant. I was ready to move to Georgia. However, as we were leaving word was passed that the heavens were about to open up, and they did. It cooled things off. At some point Doug left to replenish the HS, and we were all on hand at the Suite to help unload the SUV when he arrived some hours later.
I should mention here that most of the provisions came from the WalMart across the road from the Jamison, but that Hard Liquor had to be procured from a Shady part of town. Joe and Jon both love Wal Mart, and have fond memories of the ones in Lexington, VA, Maui, and the Big Island. Joe forgot his dress shirt and bought a tacky but useful one in this Walmart. He alleged he was sorry he had packed, as he could have outfitted himself entirely. This after I made them both buy new suits for the event. By the way, they noticed that no one else had on a striped suit. I tried to convince them that California styles are avant garde but I am not sure they bought it. Jon did state, rather emphatically, that he will never have to shop for a wedding again. He’s done.
While Margaret and my Mom had their hair done that afternoon, we repaired to the local Dairy Queen. Joe was disappointed to find that they don’t serve steak fingers any more. I wisely abstained and read the local paper, which reported that the fugitive had been captured at 5 am the previous day, just as the Judge had predicted: a night in the swamps of southwest Georgia made jail seem good.
I knew someone knew something I didn’t know when one of the Dallas friends asked when they would open the church to allow us in. Have I mentioned that I felt so at home at this wedding because I knew so many of Margaret’s friends, either from Round Top excursions, or from Sea Island summers? If this friend had not every so casually clued me in I would have arrived 15 minutes before the wedding and found myself without a seat. Except that Margaret did tell us to say to the usher to seat us “between the ribbons”. This message did not get passed to all of the family, so at the church I reassured Doug’s siblings that they too belonged “between the ribbons”. I began to get worried that we wouldn’t leave room for the bridal party but it all worked out.
Taylor was the happiest bridegroom any of us had ever seen. He must have figured out what a GREAT DEAL he was getting in his lovely bride, or so his brother Austin said. I hear Austin would like an Elizabeth clone. The wedding was beautiful, the singing by Megan and Davin particularly so, and only one person fainted, and she later recovered. Let it be reported that the groom’s mother did Not cry. I think she was just relieved to see Taylor happy. One down, four to go.
On to the reception, at the same Bainbridge Country Club, transformed into a white rose garden. How could they top the dinner from the previous evening? They did. Passed fried oysters and crab claws. Multiple food stations with beef tenderloin, shrimp, pasta—some of the food I never even got to sample. An entire station of pralines being made in copper pans on the spot. A band from Atlanta that combined beach music and Sammy Davis, Jr. Great dancing. A groom’s cake in the shape of Texas and Georgia. Taylor’s Hunt grandparents “cutting a rug”. Even the flower girl danced. And finally two hands waving out the limo window as they left for Atlanta and a Maui honeymoon.
Jon left a little early with Mary and Dave, who had to relieve the sitter. (Andrew fell in love with his babysitters and his cousin Megan—the standard has been set) Jon had to ice down another half dozen cases of beer. Note to self: Georgia and Texas folks drink Bud Light and Miller Light. Beer in bottles did not go well—one young lady asked if it had alcohol in it. It must have been a fine evening. Jon kept hiding the chips so they wouldn’t get ground into the carpet. I kept pulling them out and serving them in the parking lot to the youngers, to add some carbs to the alcohol. Multicolored goldfish were especially popular.
We retired to our air conditioned room around 2 am because we knew the party was not over. The grandmothers hosted a brunch the next morning at a lovely lakeview home. Again the food was very southern—we loved the various homemade preserves and breads. Andrew attended in his seersucker Eaton suit. He immediately twisted off a brass button, but greatly enjoyed the strawberries. He was a Prince. All in attendance agreed that it had been an Exceptionally Wonderful Wedding.
We departed to help Doug and Jon dismantle the HS. Jon admitted it was masterful of moi to pass the carbs out in the parking lot, as the mess was not as great as other mornings. Austin managed to get three coolers loaded with booze into his SUV, Doug had all nineteen tuxes to return, Margaret had Mom, Dave and Mary had Andrew and a DVD player for the car, and we had Jon as a driver, until he confessed he had been up until 5 am. And the caravan began to Sea Island, which is a story for another time.
Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Welcome to Andrew's world. Here he is 21 months old, on his way in to gymboree. Gymboree is a short walk from his house, a bright and colorful place that is just his size and has lots of things to play with. Andrew had his first lesssons (sucessful we mean) at sharing at Gymboree.
We hear that his friend Owen came to see him last weekend and that they giggled together. But did they talk?
Andrews grandad Joe is very proud that when he pointed out a monkey to Andrew (actually Curious George), Andrew responded with "Waterfall". That's because the monkey house at the zoo has a waterfall, as if Grandad would know.
Saturday, January 01, 2005
Blog pawjacked
We just realized that Homer the dog had hijacked the family blog site. We think this was a reaction to the visit from 16 month old Drew. We could tell that he was afraid of Drew, because every time he got close to Homer, the dog bolted. Several times he leaped into my arms. Drew is a very affectionate little boy, and he just wanted to hug Dog, as he called Homer. Then Homer found a hidden benefit to having Drew around. Bread. Yes, Drew is fond of bread, as is Homer. Soon Homer was circling the high chair, hoping for a dropped crumb.
Once Drew left for San Diego with his parents, Homer reverted to his normal behavior and stopped posting on the blog.
Once Drew left for San Diego with his parents, Homer reverted to his normal behavior and stopped posting on the blog.
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